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Stop victim blaming

An opinion piece by Hillary Di Menna We hate victims. If women didn’t want predatory sexual advances they wouldn’t welcome them through their behaviour and clothing; if a transgender person wanted to be taken seriously they would try harder to fit in; if someone is abused by their partner, they wouldn’t provoke it. I’m tired of this sad trend—the one in which it isn’t inherently oppressive social institutions being questioned, but the victims of them. Victim blaming is a lot...

Night terrors

By Mona Korstanje CW Childhood abuse, neglect, childhood sexual violence, rape, depression, PTSD Mona lived through a lifetime of abuse, but is finally in the loving relationships we all deserve. This is only a portion of my life. I am a prime example of abuse and trauma. My brother was born just two weeks after I turned a year old. He was born without kidneys and my mother spent all day long caring for this newborn. When he was two...

Toronto Star: Former juror to bring 12 angry letters to Ottawa to make case for trauma support

By Joanna Smith Toronto Star Published April 10, 2017 “Now living with a diagnosis of post-traumatic stress disorder, Farrant has made it his mission to make sure other jurors who need counselling and other mental health support to cope with the aftermath of their civic duty are not left, like he was, calling the courthouse and being told there was nothing anyone there could do.” Read the story here...

Torontoist: The TTC Is Not Doing Enough to Combat Harassment

By Hillary Di Menna Torontoist Published July 25, 2017 “I know what it’s like. I have had a man come up to me and tell me, loudly, how he wants to kill all women; I have been asked to describe my naked body; I have been followed off and on a subway; I, like many others, have been grabbed—and those surrounding us don’t bat any eyes, they avert them instead. If no one considers these things worthy of attention, we are...

R v Dewey and what makes the ‘perfect rape’

Columnist Stephanie Stella writes about R v Dewey and its rare outcome. CW rape, sexual assault On May 23, 2017, Jeffrey Dewey went on trial for one count of sexual assault, and one count of impersonation of a police officer. His victim was a complete stranger – my friend, who I will refer to as CMD. On September 11, 2016, CMD was sitting by herself on the Toronto corner of College and Spadina. She was waiting to meet a friend,...

The Globe and Mail: New tool to report sexual assaults coming to TTC riders

By Fallon Hewitt The Globe and Mail Published June 30, 2017 “’I think with the subway specifically, it’s also such a microcosm, it’s such an example of the broader picture,’” Ms. Di Menna said. “’If you ever want to examine a society, you have all these different people in the subway, functioning as an example of how society works. When no one was doing anything and I was in a position where I felt unsafe to even press the strip,...